Testimonials

A collection of responses and testimonials from attendees, viewers, and readers from across the globe.

Hello, I watched your TED Talk last night and you were literally telling me my own story… I FINALLY after over 7 years of trying got my tubes removed. I found an amazing doctor who didn’t ask me questions, just told me what was going to happen, totally supportive… I know how lucky I am to have her.

…[My former doctor] tried to talk me out of it, asked me “what does your boyfriend think about this? What if you break up?” and no one would even consider it until I was over 30. Like 30 is a magic number or something. Even after I got the procedure I went back and he says to me “So you talked them into it?” I felt just as you were describing. Thank you ! Thank you ! For taking this issue to a wider audience. I don’t understand why it is this way. Maybe you have started this path of change.”

—via Facebook message

“Thank you for taking this issue to a wider audience”

Hi Christen! Last night I watched your Ted Talk and it really inspired me. I have always known that I do not want to give birth to a child. When I tell my mom this, tears build in her eyes and she says that since I am young I am just saying that. God gave you a gift to have children and you will have them. It’s always been a struggle for me when she says that. I feel like I am not the daughter she hoped for. I tell her that I am going to foster and adopt kids and give a child a loving home to live in. I really do not see what is wrong with that. Anyway, I just wanted to say thank you for giving me the message my mother should have.”

—via Facebook message

“Thank you for giving me the message my mother should have”

…I was one of the volunteers and attendees of the TedxMileHigh-Women’s event… [and] your talk was inspiring and also captivating. Using your voice to deconstruct this idea of predetermined “roles” set by our society and culture, was truly moving.

Having dealt with identity issues, as well as my “role” in our society I resonated with your voice and reason

…You’re a profound individual Christen and I really do admire your intellect.”

—via Facebook message

“Using your voice to deconstruct this idea of predetermined ‘roles’ set by our society and culture was truly moving.”

I was so moved by your talk at TEDxMilehighWomen2016, Christen. Thanks for sharing such a personal journey with us.”

—via Facebook message

 

“I was so moved by your talk at TEDxMilehighWomen2016”

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“powerful talk”

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Gone should be the days of asking women, “When are you having a baby?” The societal prescription for babies isn’t for everyone, and sometimes it’s just not that easy a thing to do! – * –

One in five women in the United States will not have a biological child, and Christen Reighter is one of them. From a young age, she knew she didn’t want kids, in spite of the insistence of many people (including her doctor) who told her she’d change her mind. In this powerful talk, she shares her story of seeking sterilization — and makes the case that motherhood is an extension of womanhood, not the definition.

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“The societal prescription for babies isn’t for everyone”

… I just saw [your] tedtalk about the choice of having or not [having] children
I felt for the first time that someone understands me
Thank [you] so much for that

—via Facebook message

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“I felt for the first time that someone understands me”

Thank you so VERY MUCH for speaking out on this. I pursued surgical sterilization at 30 & [stopped] for every single reason you mentioned. I just watched your Ted and just, thank you. Deeply appreciate you publicly sharing your experience and for letting so many of know we are not alone.

—via Facebook message

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“Deeply appreciate you publicly sharing your experience and for letting so many of know we are not alone”

… just wanted to say how much I LOVED your Ted Talk about not wanting to have children as I also feel the same way.. I can relate to so much of what u said … thank you so so much for doing the talk u r amazing!”

—via Facebook message

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“I can relate to so much… Amazing!”

Christen, I wanted to take a moment to thank you for sharing your thoughts and experience on #ChildfreeChoice. This is something that I personally identify with and have known about myself for as long as I can remember. I have never been able to envision having children like the rest of my friends and I went a long time thinking there was something wrong with me simply because I didn’t see motherhood in my future. I have been judged, questioned, and disrespected by strangers as well as those closest to me. The words, “you’ll change your mind” or “you just haven’t met the right man yet” have haunted me and it was so validating to be reminded that I am not alone.

—via Facebook message

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“…it was so validating to be reminded that I am not alone”

Hi Christen, I just wanted you to know that I’ve watched your video and think you’re an incredibly inspirational person. Choosing to have this belief can make you feel ostracised from society, so it’s so incredibly comforting to know that there are other women out there who are confident enough to say they know how they want to treat their bodies and are in control of their own lives. You’re such a brave person. Thank you.”

—via Facebook message

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“Incredibly inspirational”

…I just saw your TED talk and it blew my mind. I’ve never felt more identified with something [or] someone like I did when I listened to you. Thank you. Truly and from the bottom of my heart. I felt like you were talking for me…”
—via Facebook message

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“I’ve never…identified with something or someone like I did when I listened to you.”

I just watched your TED talk about choosing not to have children. Thank you. I don’t feel so alone now in my choice to not become a mother.
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“I don’t feel so alone now in my choice to not become a mother.”